Parents are not as precious in the world as their children. Parental love for children is unconditional, and if your child is always healthy and happy, you are ready to do anything. On the other hand, immature young children always ask parents about their curiosity about everything. And it is important to experience both the best and worst moments of life as you grow up, feeling a lot.
As a child grows up, he or she can not always be a strong support from the side when confronted with such situations and difficulties. You should be able to teach your child how to deal with the situation by experiencing the darker and harder aspects of life. It is especially important to understand and accept sad feelings through death.
Death to a child
To many people, human death is a very sensitive topic. However, it is not right to hide these facts and feelings for children. It can be difficult to experience and understand situations of death such as sadness or loss at a young age. For example, a character in a comic book or a movie that a child likes often does not get revived or treated seriously after experiencing death. You may think that death is temporary.
But life does not know what will happen. Being able to experience the loss of a loved one at an early age even if the child does not want to. It is difficult to understand death in such a way that young people do not know how it affects their lives and what they mean. At this time, parents should make sure that the child learns about sadness and loss by understanding death and why it occurs.
Knowing the signs that your child is mourning
It is important to recognize the extreme grief that a child experiences when he or she loses a loved one, whether it be a pet, a neighbor, a teacher, or a friend.
Obsession: The child tends to be overly hanging on his parents or always wanting to stay with his parents. Or they may be reluctant to go to school or do something that they did not do before.
Guilty: Children like adults can blame themselves if they lose someone they love. It is because I think that I contributed to the death of a specific person.
Discarded feelings: Parents should carefully observe whether their child has the feelings of betrayal, rejection, abandonment or abandonment due to the loss of a loved one.
Anxiety: You can start worrying about everything that happens in your life. It is important to convince your child that everything will work out in this case, as the mood eventually declines, thinking too much.
Sleep disorders: You may want to sleep with your parents or other comfortable companions while struggling to sleep alone. In the worst case, a dead person also appears in a dream.
Academic and Concentration Disorders: It can be difficult to concentrate on school classes or other activities, and at the same time make decisions difficult.
How to help when a child is sad
If your child has the symptoms listed above, it is wise to help them overcome the problem as soon as possible. It is impossible for children to overcome these emotions because they are new and awkward. Some strategies are presented as follows.
1. Being honest about death: Most parents tend to tell their child that they have fallen asleep to a deceased person or went to a distant place and are not directly informing their child about death. However, this only confuses the child and must be confronted with reality. In other words, the dead person should be told that they are not coming back anymore.
2. Recognizing loss due to death: After explaining death, people are perceived to accept that they experience death. Parents can explain a variety of ways. The most important point is to realize that human beings can not live forever by death.
3. Patience: Sad feelings about a child's death can last from a few days to a few months. In this process, parents show that they can understand and help their children at any time.
4. Taking care of yourself: While your child is experiencing feelings of sadness, parents should be able to take care of themselves. It is important to have open dialogue for mutual understanding, and parents should look to see if their child is ready to open their feelings.
5. Reading a book about grief: The child will definitely ask parents about everything about the loss caused by death. In preparation for this, the parents should be able to read the book dealing with loss, death, and sadness in advance and answer the child correctly.