Just as there is a saying, "Ugly 7", children at this age sometimes cause certain behavior problems and cause parental headaches. Most parents, however, fail to take the right steps in their minds, hoping to get through the moment without obvious discipline or correction.
In fact, there is no standard for defining normal behavior. It is considered normal behavior when it appears appropriate from a social or developmental point of view because it is characterized by individual characteristics according to personality, emotional development, and educational environment. Of course, not doing so does not mean abnormal. It is adequate for the age of the child and may not be harmful. Parents may also be able to calibrate their behaviorally or in their own way.
This course introduces the general behavior problems that children make and how they can be changed correctly.
1. Rebellious behavior and remarks
If a 3-year-old has a similar behavior to his parents, it will look just cute, not at all. But if you are not 3 but 7, the problem can be different. If a seven-year-old child speaks back and speaks negative each time to the parent's words, it should be regarded as an act of rebellion and a rude answer. If you do not cope correctly at this time, conflicts and conflicts can continue between your child and your parents.
* Solution : It is wise to give a warning immediately when your child is acting in rebellious ways using rude words. For example, "If you do not organize your toys right now, you will not see manga". However, if your child does not listen to you, you should try to experience the consequences of your behavior. When a parent is able to consistently and consistently experience the consequences of a child's behavior, the child will listen and listen to the parent at any moment.
2. Aggressive or violent behavior
When you are a child, you can easily irritate yourself with minor things. However, if this level is severe and acts violently or aggressively, it becomes a problematic behavior. In fact, mood disorders, mental illness, behavioral disabilities, trauma, impulse or frustration are factors that cause aggression in children, and children sometimes resort to violence to defend themselves. When you are sick, you can hit other siblings, throw books or other objects, and make a sound.
Some children act aggressively because they do not know how to deal with their feelings. Or if your child is a perfectionist, you can easily frustrate and anger every time your work does not go as planned.
Of course, this behavior may be normal behavior for infants or preschoolers, but aggression itself is not a good trait, so it should gradually disappear.
* Solution : Make sure your child knows the consequences of each and every aggressive behavior you see. For example, deprive a child of the privileges, privileges, and rewards it has. When they apologize for their actions, they praise them and give them other compensation. If the child's vigilance does not improve over time, it is best to seek professional help at this time.
Lying is also a behavior problem that can happen in childhood. Also, it is common for parents who have children at this age to be concerned and anxious about the child 's lies.
However, in order to correct this behavior of your child, you first need to know why you are lying. Children usually lie for three reasons, first to attract attention and to avoid scolding, and to make the last feel better. It is better to differentiate the reasons for lying and determine the best course of action.
Psychologist Jerry Wickkop explains that if children find that a lie is easy to make them feel angry about what they have already done or avoid what they do not want to do, did.
* Solution : At this time, ask your child, "Did you really have something like that or do you have something you want?" And allow the child to experience additional consequences of lying. The most important thing is to emphasize the importance of truth to the child, and always be able to teach to be honest.
4. Manipulative behavior
Children's manipulative behavior is both difficult to handle as a parent and stressful. There are times when children act to lie, cry, temper and get angry to get what they want. When they surrender immediately, they think they are entitled to do this. In a supermarket, it is a case in which a child who is crying for buying a cake is forced to buy a cake and comfort it.
However, these measures only give the child more strength. Parents should realize that this pattern of the child can be broken at any time, and never repeat the action again.
* Solution : At first, simply ignore it. To experience that the child's crying and anger can not change the parent's mind. And again, when the child stops doing this, you should take positive care. It is good to teach your child how to deal with unpleasant emotions such as disappointment or frustration.
5. Rude and disrespectful behavior
Some children call themselves nicknames, throw objects, and show jokes. This is also a common behavior problem, so you should not react rudely at this time.
* Solution : If your child does this to attract attention, it is best to ignore it. In most cases, however, you must let your child experience the consequences of his ordeal. For example, when you do something irksome, your child will be penalized for not doing other things you like.