Parenting is taught by parents through trial and error. There is no school about being a good mom or dad, but it is helpful to listen to the advice of Dr. Ken Ginsberg, a child specialist at the Philadelphia Children 's Hospital. On October 18th, Dr. Ginsberg said that parents should treat parents like a long marathon for their outstanding children in the Piedmont High School educational speech.
He said his children would give their children a video game or a surprise gift when they did something good, but the parents said they should also prepare for when their child fails. If parents think of life as a marathon, they will encourage their children to stand up again when they are staggered. If you focus only on study, not life, this is like concentrating on bumper stickers only on cars when you graduate from college. In a column contributed to the East Bay Times, Ginsberg pointed out that this attitude is no different from what you would expect to see in life only.
Ginsberg criticized the 1970s and 1980s self-esteem movements for raising children with severe depression and anxiety. He said the children are doing something good and enjoying their studies in order to have real confidence. Rather than self-esteem, I emphasized seven key elements of resilience: self-confidence, aptitude, connection, personality, contribution, coping and control. "The concrete action of resilience is to approach someone and say, 'I need help.' If the other child helps, the children will need help in the future if needed, "said Ginsberg.
Expecting parents to be perfect for their children can cause disappointment. In addition, you may be afraid that your child will disappoint your family. Parents and teen communication experts have said that raising children as a child with rules, harmonious love and warmth is the most successful parenting style, rather than killing children and fostering fear and creativity.
A columnist at the Assad Tribune pointed out that parents could be terrified or overwhelmed in taking responsibility for their children's lives, and that their mother or father could become polarized to their children. He pointed out that parents who constantly worry about the safety of their children have the motivation to limit freedom for the purpose of protecting their children, and that this parenting attitude is the cause of the child becoming an inactive child.
Children may have difficulty in making their own decisions, resolving conflicts, and suffering from depression and anxiety. Instead, he suggested that a child with self-confidence and independence should develop a nurturing environment that can grow and develop well. When children are given independence, they are mature, have problem-solving abilities, and help to develop into a child who can solve their troubles well.
According to psychologists, dictatorial and authoritative nursing also originally belonged to the main caretaking category. This parenting scheme is now known as helicopter raising. In 1990, Foster Klein and Jianpei described the helicopter raising in the Chicago Tribune as a parenting style that closely observes all of their children's behavior. Smith said helicopter raising comes from parents' fear and desire to protect their children. Parents are so anxious that they tend to protect their children and behave in a polar way. These parents can forget that their children have to be independent and to balance protection with the need to face their own challenges.
Helicopter raising is similar to raising tigers in Asia. The fundamental reason for tiger raising is to increase intelligent academic achievement. As a result, expectations for children are so high that they force strict rules at home. Educational specialist Ellison Schaefer said, "Tiger-raising children will grow into three types: pleasure-seeking, sneaky, and rebel." Also, children who grow up in authoritarian parents are " I suffer from depression and anxiety. "