Adolescence is a time of great confusion for both parents and children. While many teens feel uncomfortable with their parents and refuse to talk to their parents, parents also complain that they do not know how to cope with sudden emotional upsets and unpredictable behavior in adolescents.
However, as teenage years are preliminary stages before they become adults, how they spend their teens has a big influence on how they will live as adults. A professional psychotherapist, Preston Nee wrote a psychological journal, Psychology Today, in which a teenage parenting guide for teachers, parents, and mentors struggling with teenage children and relationships with students was published.
1. Stay calm
Many teenagers tend to constantly stimulate parents and teachers to eventually explode. Even obedient children, at this time, rebel against the words of parents and teachers, back up, break rules, and ignore advice. In this way, teenagers scratch the nerves of their parents or teachers, eventually causing their opponents to explode. But you say, "The stronger your parents or teachers respond and the more angry they are, the more likely they are to think their teenager is on top of their opponent."
Keeping your composure is the first rule of teenage care. Even in situations where you are confronted with your child, you should not lose your composure and be able to act maturely, and you may be able to act or say something you will regret later.
To do this, he advises, "Take a deep breath before counting things that can make things worse, count ten in your mind and keep your composure."
2. Communicating effectively and positively
Parents and teachers can effectively strengthen their status through active dialogue skills. One particularly useful method is to provide expectations for teenage children. However, it should not be too ambiguous or difficult to achieve. Children's health information site kidshealth.org explains that "parents should show their children that they are paying a great deal of attention and expectation by providing them with standards such as good grades, good behavior, and family rules."
Parents sometimes tend to forget that they once were teenagers. When dealing with teenage children, it is important to empathize with their feelings. Also, depending on the situation, it is better to cope with a sense of humor rather than strictly speaking. Sometimes it is better to give general advice rather than overly specific advice. "If you continue to give unwanted advice, at best you can be interpreted as a person who tries to violate the independence of a tough person or child," Prestoney, a psychotherapist, warns.
4. Listen silently
Many teenagers believe that it is hard not to listen to their words. If your child is angry or frustrated, it is good to suggest that you listen to your child. Rather than giving advice or opinions, it is necessary to just listen to the story of the child. "Be a friend regardless of your actual role in your relationship with your teenager," Preston says. It is a good idea to ask your child what they want before helping or giving advice.
5. Talking about results
When your child continues to challenge your parents' authority and show a bad attitude, you need to tell them about your results. Talking about results is one of the best effective ways to end bad behavior. "By effectively explaining the consequences of bad behavior, a tough teenager can stop acting rebelliously and show a cooperative attitude to parents and teachers," Nee explained.
Sending a teenager safely is a challenge for both parents and children, but many experts advise that good relationships between parents and children can be formed and maintained if parents control the situation in the right way and manner.